feat(ipc): the control socket carries every web command; mailboxes are a fallback (stage 4) (#765)

- client: ControlError.sent says whether the display had the request;
  should_fall_back() allows a mailbox write only when it did not, or when
  the display is too old to know the command (upgrade case)
- on-demand start/stop: a display that had the request and failed it is
  answered 503 (400 for invalid_args), no mailbox copy
- errors.clear: new socket command, answered on the connection thread by
  a handler the display registers; applied and republished before the
  answer; plugin_error_clear_request only on fallback
- display: on-demand mailbox looked at once a second while the socket is
  up (0.25 s without), read only when its file changed (one stat via
  CacheManager.file_signature / MailboxWatch); socket commands no longer
  touch the mailbox; a processed duplicate is consumed; writers logged once
- error publisher: mailbox read only when changed; snapshot carries
  applied_clear_cutoff so an older mailbox request is not shown pending
- docs and CHANGELOG (mailboxes kept for one release)

Co-authored-by: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

test/test_ipc_contract.py

@@ -167,7 +167,8 @@ class TestOnDemandArgs:
     def test_every_command_has_an_argument_type(self, cmd):
         args = {Command.ON_DEMAND_START: {'plugin_id': 'p'},
                 Command.PLUGIN_RELOAD: {'plugin_id': 'p'},
-                Command.BRIGHTNESS_SET: {'brightness': 50}}.get(cmd, {})
+                Command.BRIGHTNESS_SET: {'brightness': 50},
+                Command.ERRORS_CLEAR: {'cutoff': 1790000000.0}}.get(cmd, {})
         c.parse_args(cmd, args)
 
     def test_hello_versions(self):