feat(ipc): the control socket carries every web command; mailboxes are a fallback (stage 4) (#765)

- client: ControlError.sent says whether the display had the request;
  should_fall_back() allows a mailbox write only when it did not, or when
  the display is too old to know the command (upgrade case)
- on-demand start/stop: a display that had the request and failed it is
  answered 503 (400 for invalid_args), no mailbox copy
- errors.clear: new socket command, answered on the connection thread by
  a handler the display registers; applied and republished before the
  answer; plugin_error_clear_request only on fallback
- display: on-demand mailbox looked at once a second while the socket is
  up (0.25 s without), read only when its file changed (one stat via
  CacheManager.file_signature / MailboxWatch); socket commands no longer
  touch the mailbox; a processed duplicate is consumed; writers logged once
- error publisher: mailbox read only when changed; snapshot carries
  applied_clear_cutoff so an older mailbox request is not shown pending
- docs and CHANGELOG (mailboxes kept for one release)

Co-authored-by: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

test/_run_loop_harness.py

@@ -143,12 +143,24 @@ class FakeCache:
     def __init__(self):
         self.data: Dict[str, Any] = {}
         self.cache_dir = "/nonexistent/run-loop-harness"
+        self._writes = 0
+        self._written: Dict[str, int] = {}
 
     def get(self, key, max_age=None, memory_ttl=None):
         return self.data.get(key)
 
     def set(self, key, data, ttl=None):
         self.data[key] = data
+        # Every write is a new file, as DiskCache's rename makes it.
+        self._writes += 1
+        self._written[key] = self._writes
+
+    def file_signature(self, key):
+        """CacheManager.file_signature: None without a file, else a value
+        that changes with every write."""
+        if key not in self.data:
+            return None
+        return (self._written.get(key, 0), 0, 0)
 
     def delete(self, key):
         self.data.pop(key, None)